The Biblical Family

A house is a place, but a home is made of people. A Christian home is a home where people are living out their Christian faith each day. The Bible reminds us in Psalm 127:1a ,”Except the Lord build the house, they labor in vain that build it:”We are living in the world today where chaos reigns in the homes of many who profess to be Christians. This is not the way God intended it to be. The Bible says in Colossians 3:15, ” And let the peace of god rule in your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; and be ye thankful.” However, I am afraid that peace cannot be found in many so-called “Christian” homes in America. We cannot look to the world for help in this matter of having a Christian home. If we are going to have a Christian home, we must look to the Bible. A Christian home is a biblical home; one that has its foundations rooted in the Word of God. Dear reader, the purpose of this article is to challenge you to have a “Biblical Family”.


How can one describe a “Biblical Family”? The Biblical Family can be described as one who has chosen to allow the Word of God to reign in their home. A family who has chosen to follow the clear teachings of the Bible in all manners of faith and practice. Joshua made a clear choice for his family when he said, “but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”The Biblical family does not happen by chance or by accident. It takes purposefully deciding everyday to pursue and serve God. The Biblical Family is not a family who allows the humanistic teachings of the world to dictate the direction of their home. The “Biblical Family” is a family who separates from the world, and clings to the truths of the Bible. They do not challenge the truths found within the pages of the Bible, they conform to them. They do not dispute the doctrines that are declared, they determine to live out those doctrines in their everyday lives.


What would be the design of such a family? What does the “Biblical Family” look like? It is made up of individuals who have specific roles in the home. The individuals would include the husband, the wife, and if God blesses a home with children, then children. God has designed each individual to play a certain role in the home. For example, the husband has been called by God to lead the home. Ephesians 5:23 “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.” The biblical truth of leadership for the husband is considered politically incorrect today; however, it has never been more true. The husband has been called by God to lead his family. He is to lead them as he follows God. The husband has also been commanded to love his wife, Ephesians 5:25, “Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;” The example given in Scripture is compared to Christ’s love for the church. The husband is to love his wife better than she can love herself. He is to care for her better than she can care for herself . I understand this teaching is not popular in our day, however it is biblical. The society and culture of our day teaches that women do not need a man to lead them. The fact of the matter is, many of the modern religions teach truths that are contrary to Scripture. However, the fact is, God’s design is for the husband to lead the home.

The wife has the duty of submitting to the leadership of her husband, Colossians 3:18 “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.” Submission is a beautiful Bible word. This does not  mean  that the husband  has the right to treat the wife like a slave. Just the opposite is true. The Bible reminds us in , Proverbs 18:22 “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.” The biblical husband will love his wife more than he loves himself. He will care for her better than he cares for himself.

The individuals in a “Biblical Family” also include children. If God has blessed your  home with  children,  I want  to remind you what the Bible says about them: Psalms 127:3 “Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.” As parents, we must remember the responsibility that comes with the blessing of raising children. God has commanded the husband and wife, mom  and dad,  to  train  up  the children that have blessed their home. Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old,  he  will  not  depart from it.” However, children  also  have  a  responsibility  in  the home, and that is to obey.  Obeying  their  God  given  authority  in the home, is the perfect  will  of  God  for  all  children.  Ephesians 6:1 says “Children, obey your  parents  in  the  Lord: for  this  is right.” There has been a generation of children raised in  America, who know nothing about  submitting  to  the  authorities  in  their lives. Parents are not doing  their  children  a  favor  by  allowing them to be disobedient. We must be vigilant about teaching our children to obey. We must also remember that slow obedience is disobedience . This basic design of the “Biblical Family” looks much different than the modern family  in  the world  today,  but the “Biblical Family” has stood strong generation after generation.


What should be the desire of such a family? The “Biblical Family” has a desire to bring honor and glory to God. When God saw that Adam  was alone, this was the first thing in creation  that He said was “not good”. We are told in, Genesis 2:18 says “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone ; I will make him an help meet for him .” The desire of the “modern family” is to glorify self and live as you please with no regard to others. The modernists put themselves before others, while Bible  believers  put others before themselves. A truly “Biblical Family” desires to  honor God. They work to honor God in all walks  of life.  The  “Biblical Family” will have a home where the Word of God is  taught,  and  the will of God is followed. The “Biblical Family” is not a perfect family, however, they realize that  they  serve  a  perfect  God.  They  seek  to love Him with all their heart, and serve Him together as a family.  They realize that they are sinners saved by the grace of God and on their very best day, they can not do anything without Him! I truly desire to have a “Biblical Family”. This is not a mythical creature that does not or cannot exist. We can determine with  the  help of God to have a “Biblical Family”. God has given us the formula for the “Biblical Family” in His Word. We must simply obey His Word and follow His will. May God help us as we seek to have families that would bring honor and glory to Him.

Pastor John Roberson

Clinton, IL