The Avoid Principle

1 Corinthians 6:14 “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

Whenever a young couple finds themselves in moral trouble, more often than not, it is “by accident”. Now, I do not mean they accidently sinned. What I mean is, they did not set out to do wrong on purpose, but failed to guard themselves from temptation. Some of the best young people have fallen into moral trouble. They did everything they were supposed to do. They strived to live their lives above board. So, how did they fall into moral trouble? They simply failed to avoid situations that might lead them into committing a moral sin. Let us look at how we can keep from getting into moral trouble by using the “avoid” principle.

1. AVOID being alone with your date where there is no form of accountability.

Guys, you are the leader of the relationship. It is your responsibility to make sure that there is always accountability present when you are with your date. Girls, if the guy does not lead in this area, speak up or leave the relationship all together. Having accountability helps to keep everyone honest in their actions and conversation. Never be alone in a car with your date, or someone of the opposite gender for that matter. Whether it be at church, a house, or a public setting, always stay accountable. Having a chaperone on all your dates is a sure-fire way to have accountability in the relationship. Having a chaperone is meant to keep things honest and to guard against the temptation of sin. Chaperones are for when you are together with your date outside of a church or college activity. Regardless of the setting, the value of having someone there to ensure accountability is priceless for dating in a God-pleasing way.

2. AVOID touching!

Now this seems like an obvious point, but there are some who will get into trouble because of what they think to be a “small” hug, or “just” hand holding. These actions are dangerous ground and will lead to more serious moral sins and consequences. What you think to be just innocent touching will lead to a stronger temptation. Be sure to leave plenty of space between you and your date. Be vigilant of your surroundings so that no accidental touching occurs. This is a good general rule to have with anyone of the opposite gender even if you are not dating.

3. AVOID things that promote a lifestyle that you are trying to protect against.

The things we entertain ourselves with should represent the lifestyle we are trying to live. If you do not want to be immoral, then do not fill your mind with tv shows, movies, books, music, magazines, websites, social media pages…etc. that do nothing but promote and glamorize sin.

4. AVOID trusting yourself.

A common mistake that dating couples (and even single people) make that leads to their sin, is trusting themselves not to yield to temptation. We are all human, we all sin. This is why you should take pride in your relationship and in making sure that everything stays above board. You CAN fall! You are not immune to making mistakes that can change the whole course of your life. Do not trust yourself! Avoid these things and it will help you keep your dating relationship above board. A Godly relationship is worth the present sacrifice. With sacrifice comes no regrets.