1 Timothy 3:2- “A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach;”
Timothy is delivered the description and demands of a man of God in 1 Timothy Chapter 3. Throughout this discourse Paul pens the principles and practices that every preacher must fit and follow. The charge from the Apostle is that the bishop, or pastor, or for that matter, the preacher must be the husband of one wife.
Dr. Curtis Hutson once said, “Adam and Eve had an ideal marriage: he didn’t have to hear about all the men she could have married; and she didn’t have to hear about all the ways his mother would’ve cooked it!” In spite of the often jokes and countless cracks it is a wonderful thing to be married. To have communion with another person that surpasses that of previous relationships and friendships. To have someone to provide for as well as to depend upon, to raise a family for God’s glory together. To find a wife is to find a good thing.
Proverbs 18:22- “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
But for the Timothy, the young preacher, this desire to have a companion can lead to disaster! It is of utmost importance that the girl whose finger you place a ring upon is God’s girl for your life and ministry. Being a preacher, a pastor, an evangelist, a missionary is quite different from holding a job in secular society. The burdens that you carry will become your wife’s burdens. The schedule that you keep will become your wife’s schedule. The storms that you weather your wife must weather with you. She must have a surrendered heart and will for the work that God has called you to. A companion can either be your best asset or your biggest agitation. One preacher said, “My wife is an angel…she’s always up in the air harping on something!”
The preacher’s wife and how she carries and conducts herself will have as much influence and impact on the productivity of the man of God’s ministry as anything else. Your choice of a companion must be made according to the will of God lest you be moved out of the will of God! I believe the Lord has the right help meet for every preacher. The Lord has blessed m with a wonderful wife. She supports me in the ministry, prays for me, accompanies me to many of my meetings, and at times provides special singing during my revival services. She makes it possible for me to keep preaching across the country; not to keep from preaching.
Some preachers never marry, others marry too often. Be sure that as a young preacher, God gets first say on your choice of companion. You’ve got one chance to get it right and until death do your part to live with your decision!
Evangelist| Dr. Justin Cooper
Clays Mill Baptist Church| (859)-277-6811