Staying Happy In the Ministry

I love the start of a new year. It is a time to make some new goals. Even if you didn’t complete all your goals from last year, you can start fresh and stay determined to complete them this year. A great goal to have is to stay  happy! Lets take a look at some areas that can help us stay happy while serving God in this new year.

1. Rejoicing

1 Thess 5:16 says, “Rejoice evermore”  Rejoicing is one of the best ways to bring things back into perspective. The word ‘rejoice” means to be glad; take delight to make joyful. Sometimes we just need to take a minute and think about how good God has been to us. He died and rose again so that we could have a home in Heaven. He provides our needs  and wants. He hears and answers our prayers, comforts us when we are sad. and there are so many more things that the Lord does for us each and every day. We need to take time when we are feeling a little down and out, to reflect on all the blessings that God has bestowed upon us. I think the little girl singing the hymn “Count your blessings name them one by one. God has truly been better to all of us than we deserve. Ps 92:1-2 It is a good thing to give thanks unto the Lord, and to sing praises unto thy name, O most high to show forth thy lovingkindnees in the morning, and thy faithfulness every night.  One of my favorite ways to rejoice and praise God is through singing. Personally, I have found that singing is one of the most beneficial things when I am overwhelmed, upset or discouraged. Some of my favorite songs include: “What a Day that Will Be”. “Great is Thy faithfulness”, “Farther along”, and “What a friend We have in Jesus.” I love to go around just singing a hymn or just a good old fashioned song, I God has blessed you with talent to play a instrument such as the piano or guitar it might be a comfort to sit down and play for a few minutes. Personally, I am not blessed with such a talent. If i were to try to play, it would definitely be more misery than solace for all parties involved.

2. Relationships

Proverbs 18:24 “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” Another aspect that is crucial to staying happy in the ministry is to develop proper relationships. Establishing strong relationships with Christ, your spouse, and your friends is critical to staying happy in the ministry. On June 11, 2007, I started establishing a personal relationship with the Lord. That night my husband and I had gone to a tent meeting to learn how to set one up, run the sound system and so on. that night the preacher preached on “Is Gods Grace Sufficent for you?” Having grown up in church and a Christian home. I knew everything about being saved. I could quote the whole Romans Road. I had gone out soul winning and even led people to Christ. The preacher made the statement that day, having Christ in your head will send you straight to Hell! Only Christ in your heart will take you to Heaven. So I accepted Christ as my personal Savior that night. Before I Got saved I definitely was not happy in the ministry. After that night, the Lord changed my total outlook for the ministry and for the first time I could say that i was truly happy in the ministry. Every relationship even with Christ, takes daily work. Praying, reading our Bibles, soul winning, studying are a few ways that we can help build our relationship with Christ and pleasing someone we love always makes us happy. Eph 5:22 “Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. Eph 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives….  One of  the greatest gifts that God has given us women outside our salvation is our husband. G0d gave us someone who would love all of our little quirks. The ministry of being a wife is very important in the success of your home. Did you ever notice in Ephesians that we as wives were told to submit to our husbands before our lord told our husbands to love us? (in my mind) it would make more sense for the husbands to love their wives it would make it easier for the wives to submit to them. But that is not the way the Lord intended. By submitting first, it allows our husbands to love us this way Christ intended. It would be extremely hard to love someone that was always pushing back against what you told them to do. Submitting is not belittling yourself it is willingly placing yourself under the leadership and authority  of your husband. If you truly submit to your husband your relationship and love will grow stronger and this will make you much happier in your ministry as a wife.    Proverbs 27:17 “Iron sharpenth iron, so a man sharpenth the countenance of his friend”. The wisdom that God gave King Solomon in the verse is astounding. I remembered  sometimes my mother would ask me. “Who have you been hanging around,? I would tell her and then I would ask why? she would say you are starting to act like them. Then other times she would say “you have been hanging around so and so haven’t you?  I thought how does she know that? I have learned that almost being in the ministry 9 years that who you hang around and take counsel  from, will indeed affect your attitude and outlook either positively or negatively. Let me give you an example.  My husband is an evangelist. When we first started in the ministry. I would travel with him all the time. So I would get to travel with him all the time. So I would get to talk to preachers wives and they would give me advice and there experiences with me.  After being in the ministry for a few years, we were getting ready to buy a house and I was going to start staying home and working. Not long before that transition I was talking to a pastors wife. and she was telling me what a bad idea it was for me to stay home. She then proceeded to tell me story after story about how,  when her husband would travel while she was at home schooling their children, that women would chase her husband, bring meals to his room, write him love letters and so on. There i was getting excited ready to embark on a new aspect of our ministry, but after speaking with that woman, I was scared and jealous out of my mind. A few days latter my husband told me  I should talk to a lady whose husband has been traveling many years and she had always stayed home and ask her how she handled it. So I did and she was such of a encouragement to me. She said that there were probably going to be women that would try to flirt with my husband , but that it would be okay.


Desarae Cooper | Pastor’s Wife