I Sam 1:10-11, 27 “And she was in bitterness of soul, and prayed unto the Lord, and wept sore. And she vowed a vow, and said, O Lord of hosts, if thou wilt indeed look on the affliction of thine handmaid, and remember me, and not forget thine handmaid, but wilt give unto thine handmaid a man child, then I will give him unto the Lord all the days of his life, and there shall no razor come upon his head.” “For this child I prayed; and the Lord hath given me my petition which I asked of him:”
August 16, 2017 was one of the happiest days of my life. My son was born. William Worley Allen Davis the 2nd. #Deuce
My wife and I had been married for over 14 years. After two years we found out we had some major medical issues as far as children were concerned. We prayed, we took medicine, we took shots, we took pills, we used oils, creams and every remedy we heard. My wife was anointed with oil for prayer so many times- she smelled like a pizza place. But nothing seemed to work. God finally answered our prayers in December of 2016 when we found out we were expecting our first child. A boy.
One day, my wife and I sat down and thought about what those 14 years of waiting taught us.
1. We Learned Life IS Fair
My wife and I served in the ministry and do our best to serve the Lord, we couldn’t understand why we couldn’t have a child and yet other “non-deserving” people could. Some would say life isn’t fair. But Life is fair. It rains on the just and the unjust alike. Some like to ask, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” But we should instead ask, “Why do any good things happen to US bad people?” We are all sinners. We all have shortcomings and hang ups. Everyone has problems. You may not have mine and I don’t have yours, but we all have some. Life IS fair. It can be equally good and equally bad to any of us.
2. We Learned How To Be Enough
All my wife ever wanted was to be a mother. It was difficult living with the feeling that this was not going to happen. At first, it drove a wedge between us. There was a feeling as if we would never be complete without a child. But the more we prayed together and served together, we grew together and we formed #TeamDavis . We made sure to go on dates, trips, and do things together to spend time with each other. We decided that whether we had a baby or not, we had each other and we were going to love and enjoy being husband and wife and that was enough. WE were enough.
3. We Learned To Not Quit
I would love to tell you that in our journey we never thought about or wanted to quit. I would be lying. Realizing that you may not be able play ball with your son or ever be called a mother is a paralyzing paradigm. There were times that quitting looked easy. Quitting ministry, quitting marriage, quitting morality, even quitting life were all thoughts that the devil would bring to the mind. We were often brought low, but captured these thoughts in Christ and kept on going. As I type this and watch my wife play with my son, I am so glad we didn’t quit.
4. We Learned To Love Extra
Because we were not gifted with a child to love, we were able to love those in our lives extra. First was a church that trusted a couple of 22 year olds to lead them. What a great time we had at Faith. And we learned to love you extra.
Then for the next years we have been loving the teenagers of Clays Mill. We had so much love to give and no one of our own to share it with so we learned not just to love them as YP, we learned to love extra. Every awesome thing, cool place and great adventure was shared with “our kids”.. our teens.
5. We Learned That We Are Not Alone
From the early years of our struggles to this summer preaching on tour and telling our story, we have met a countless number of families who have experienced the same or similar type birthing problems. There are some whom we have wept with in prayer, others who we shared stories with in passing, but all who face the same struggles. If you are reading this right now and you are unable to have children, or are trying and haven’t been able to…. I know that feeling… I have felt it. I have hated it… We have heard those sermons, read those articles, seen those pictures, been to those baby showers, worked that nursery…You are not alone. There are many people going through what you are going through. Someone needs an example of how to live when things are not going how they were planned. Be the example. For you. For them. For the children you want.
6. We Learned God is more than Good
Ephesians 3:20 “Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,”
God is not just good. He is “exceeding” good! “Abundantly” good! Good above all we ask or think! Friend, I do not know what God has in store for your life, but I do know that God has your life in store. He is in control. Trust Him. Even when you cant trace him, you can trust Him. And even when life doesn’t seem good, God is!