Jealousy. The urban dictionary calls it the green-eyed monster. Also known as envy, jealousy has ruined relationships of every type
One young man is jealous of another because he runs faster or jumps higher. A young lady is jealous of another young lady because her hair is naturally fuller or she is taller. Even preachers are jealous of each other because one has bigger congregation or more ministry success than the other. The sin of jealousy is often minimized and unfortunately considered a “respectable sin” because, after all, everyone is guilty of it at one time or another. However, when the green-eyed monster is given place in our hearts, it can do very serious damage!
Proverbs 14:30 says that envy is the “rottenness of the bones.” In Proverbs 27:4 solomon gives us a progression of evil that climaxes with jealousy. Notice the progression, “Wrath is cruel, (level 1) and anger is outrageous;(level 2) but who is ableto stand before envy? (level 3) This is a red alert! This is the deadly level.
So, “Who is able to stand before envy?” The understood answer is “no one can.” Cain could not. His jealousy motivated him to kill his brother Abel. (Genesis 4) Who is able to stand before envy?
Joseph‘s brothers could not. They hated Joseph and sold him into slavery. (Genesis 37:3, 4) Who is able to stand before envy? The older brother of the prodigal could not. (Luke 15:25–31) Luke 15 explains that instead of jealousy rejoicing that the younger brother .had returned, instead of joining the party and the dancing and enjoying the feast with everyone else, instead of doing the will of the father, the oldest brother’s jealousy gave rise to anger. It revealed a stubbornness, a selfishness, and an entitlement mentality.
Solomon’s Question, “ Who is able to stand before envy?” Again, the answer is no one can in his own flesh So how do we overcome JEALOUSY? First, we must understand its poisonous potential.
Remember that jealousy always starts with comparison, and comparison is often dangerous.
To be clear, there’s nothing wrong with seeing someone else’s success and being inspired to achieve areas that you cannot change.
Comparison is dangerous because it often leads to a sinful discontentment, and discontentment has the poisonous potential of questioning the way God bestows gifts. This was the way God bestows gifts. This was the situation with the worldly church at corinth. The Christians at Corinth were jealous of each other’s spiritual gifts. In 1 Corinthians 12 paul address spiritual gifts and rebukes the people for their jealousy. 1 Corinthians 3:3 says about the Corinthians, “there is among you enying envying, and strife, and divisions…” The sinful envying is divisions…” The sinful enying is what brought the strife and the divisions in their church.
He concludes chapter 12 by stating that there is “a more excellent way.”(12:31) That way is famously explained in 1 Corinthians 1. Are you ready for this? The antidote to jealousy is LOVE! Not only must we understand the poisonous potential of jealousy, but in order to overcome jealousy, we must secondly, apply the antidote to envy.
1 Corinthians 13:4… “ Charity(love) envieth not:” Love is the kryptonite to the “green eyed monster.” Matthew 22 gives us the greatest commandment which starts with loving God, and that includes loving god for how He has gifted you gifts. therefore , to be jealous of someone else is to accuse God of being unfair. Love is the antidote to the evils of envy, so love God. Not only that, love thy neighbor as thyself”. Just as thrilled as you would be to have a particular talent or gift, you should be that thrilled for others who possess that talent or gift. Love them “as thyself”. Learn to honor and applaud others. Learn how to say “good job” to others and mean it sincerely out of a heart of love. Where love for God and others reigns supreme, there is no room for the wicked and dangerous sin of jealousy. So, the next time you find the person who is the object of your jealousy, and take time to praise God for how He has gifted you. If you’ll apply this biblical balm for overcoming jealousy, you’ll find yourself enjoying a stronger relationship with God and stronger relationships with others.