1. Lie.<\/strong>
Proverbs 19:9\u00a0\u2013 A false witness shall not be unpunished, and [he that] speaketh lies shall perish.
Proverbs 12:22\u00a0\u2013 Lying lips [are] abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly [are] his delight.
Psalms 101:7\u00a0\u2013 He that worketh deceit shall not dwell within my house: he that telleth lies shall not tarry in my sight.Colossians 3:9-10\u00a0\u2013 Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds; Tell Lies and Teach Lies and you will Train Lies. One of the best ways to reinforce a teens willingness to bend the truth is to bend the truth yourself. If you\u2019re willing to lie to that salesperson on the phone because you don\u2019t want to be bothered, or to the waiter to get your free food, or to your mother in law because you really don\u2019t want her to visit, then you better begin to expect your teens to lie as well to get what they want too. Why do teens lie? Often because their leaders do.
2. Honor Honesty<\/strong>
Proverbs 12:22 \u2013\u00a0Lying lips are abomination to the LORD: but they that deal truly are his delight.
Maybe we preach a hot sermon on liars or lying\u2026 if you haven\u2019t in a while\u2026 DO IT! Generally, as leaders of young people, we are much better at punishing than rewarding. We\u2019re quick to correct or yell, but we often let good behavior slide by without any acknowledgment. But, do you ever preach\/teach about why telling the truth matters? Why it sets us free? Why it is so important for Christians to know it, tell it and be it. It\u2019s not always so simple. In fact, sometimes, it really does seem that decieving would do better than the truth.
While obviously you cannot and should not take the time to praise every true thing a teenager says (\u201cWhy yes, that IS a car. Way to tell the truth!\u201d) we can point out important times when your child chooses to tell the truth when telling the truth is a hard thing (\u201cI\u2019m proud of you for telling me you have been cussing. Now, Let\u2019s talk about why?\u201d).
Why should your teens be honest when it doesn\u2019t serve him or her? When was the last time you did? Why did you choose honesty? When one of them does choose to be honest when they could lie\u2026 be sure to honor that honesty.
3. Take It Personal
<\/strong>Zechariah 8:17\u00a0\u2013 And let none of you imagine evil in your hearts against his neighbour; and love no false oath: for all these [are things] that I hate, saith the LORD.
When a teenager lies to you to protect themselves or a friend, and you take it personal\u2026 (They dont love me, They dont respect me, Why am I even here?) You are setting up the teenager and yourself for future failure, bitterness, anger, and hurt. Not every thing revolves around you. I\u2019m not saying some things don\u2019t deserve your being upset and dealing with\u2026 but realize, the deception was probably for a sin or friend and not to intentionally hurt you. Be careful taking it personal, this leads to leaning leadership and personal prejudice.
4.<\/strong> Make it Fake<\/strong>
James 1:22\u00a0\u2013 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
It\u2019s easy to get into a groove where we celebrate successes and do our best to choke back our disappointment about mistakes. We are taught this in our culture and in our churches. However, the Bible teaches we are all sinners in need of salvation and saved sinners still live in a sinful flesh, in a sinful world and are attacked by a sinful devil! We must be careful that we dont deceive in our desire to achieve spiritual success. Many times we are tempted ourselves, to deceive in our demeanor, doctrine, dress, disposition, dedication, direction and daily Christian walk. When our teens deceive to cover up things they were involved in or knew others were, we must understand they are practicing a learned behavior.
Cover ups, hypocrisy and silence will only develop deceivers. Let\u2019s work to encourage our teens that even when they fail\u2014 if they will be honest with God, they can (Because of GRACE) get up and try again with wisdom learned from a failure. When we do that, we can create a Youth Group culture in which there is less incentive to be dishonest and deceive. We want our teens to always be secure that the truth will make them free, whatever it might be.
YP, if you will lie, ignore truth, not honor honesty, take it personal and make it fake; then you can develop some dark deceivers in your ministry. When we do that, we can create a family culture in which there is less incentive to be dishonest and our kids can feel safer telling the truth, whatever it might be.
Proverbs 11:3 \u2013 The integrity of the upright shall guide them: but the perverseness of transgressors shall destroy them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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