Introduction: There have been books printed in years gone by that teach parents how to rear or train children. “How To Rear Children” by Dr. Jack Hyles is one book in particular that comes to my mind. However, I have never heard of a book on “How to Rear or Train Parents. Have you? You are now more adult than teen. You want more independence and freedom. However, your parents have rules and restrictions for you because they must give an account to God for you. You will find this out one day, but it is not easy being a parent. Who ever trained your parents how to rear you? Did they have a good role model? Did they take that course in college? In our text we read a story about Jesus during his teenage years, He was cute to Mary and Joseph as the Christmas babe in the manger. But 12 years later they didn’t know where he was for 3 days! He submitted to His parents even though He knew more than His parents. Can you imagine how difficult it was for Mary and Joseph? They had 6 children all together, Jesus never got a spanking… He didn’t deserve one, He was perfect! How did Mary and Joseph feel rearing God? They couldn’t understand Him, and your parents probably don’t understand you well either. Let me give you some tips on how to help rear your parents:
1. Honor Their Position
They may act respectable and controlled or detestable and out of
control. It does not matter, you are still to honor their position as your
leader because God placed them there.
“M’aam” and “Sir” are always honorable words. Notice 1 Kings 2:19
“Bathsheba therefore went unto king Solomon, to speak unto him for
Adonijah. And the king rose up to meet her, and bowed himself unto
her, and sat down on his throne, and caused a seat to be set for the
king’s mother; and she sat on his right hand.”
2. Express Gratitude
Remember special occasions! Fathers Day, Mother’s Day, birthdays,
anniversaries, Christmas, etc.
Write your parents thank you notes for all they do for you.
One thing your parents should never be able to say about you is that
Ephesians 6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is
Dogs go to obedience school, and teenagers ought to take a crash
course in obedience as well.
Teens are to obey just because it is right to do so. Why expect extra
from your parents when you can’t even obey what they have already
4. Make Them Proud Of You
Do your best. Make the best grades possible. Excel in something.
Behave yourself. Stay out of trouble. Be an example.
Give your parents something to brag on you about.
5. Don’t Be Secluded At Home
How does it make your parents feel when you come in from school,
walk right past them without speaking, into your room and close the
door for hours?
Love is spending time with friends and parents. Learn to have a
relationship with your parents. Do a hobby together. Find someway to
connect with them because one day you won’t be able to!
6. Give them affection
Your parents feel awkward. They want to show affection but are not
sure you want it. No teen enjoys seeing a 40 year old pair of lips
coming his direction, but it’s ok to kiss your mom and dad and hug
their necks. Again, one day you will wish you had.
7. Don’t Have A Smart Mouth
Proverbs 30:17 “The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth to
obey his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out, and the
young eagles shall eat it.”
If you find yourself being a smart mouth to your parents, buckle up
because soon you too shall have a smart mouth on your hands when
you’re a parent.
Proverbs 1:5 “A wise man will hear, and will increase learning; and
a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels.”
Look at your parents when they speak to you and hear what they are
9. Avoid Tense Arguments
When Mom and Dad are having a discussion that could be heard at
the front door, it is not a good time to ask for the car keys or a raise in
10. Figure Out Their Moods
Parents have problems, pressures, and discouragements too. When
Dad first gets in form work, he likes to unwind. Give him some space.
Mom likes security of schedule. No surprises. Give her time to think,
dream, and plan.
11. Pray For Them
I Samuel 12:23 “Moreover as for me, God forbid that I should sin
against the Lord in ceasing to pray for your, but I will teach you the
good and the right way.”
As you invest the treasure of your time in prayer for your parents,
your heart will soon follow.
12. Don’t Preach Convictions To Them
You do not know as much as them. Politely answer their questions
but don’t condemn them if they are not living dedicated Christian
13. Don’t Give Your Opinion Unless Asked
Teenagers are bad about this!
14. Pay Them Back
Proverbs 28:24 “Whoso robbeth his father or his mother, and saith,
it is no transgression; the same is the companion of a destroyer.”
I Timothy 5:4 “But if any widow have children or nephews, let them
learn first to show piety at home, and to requite their parents: for that
is good and acceptable before God.”
Make their investments worthwhile. Don’t steal their good name,
finances, sleep, or health.
15. Consider Their Opinions Of Your Friends
Parents do have experience. Sometimes their keen eye can spot
rebellion or deceit in a friend of yours. You’d better listen to them!
This includes dates as well.
16. Ask Serious Questions Now And Then
Ask Dad to teach you how to balance a checkbook. Ask Mom how to
sew on a button. They just may faint!
17. Pray for Wisdom
Philippians 2:5 speaks of the “Mind Of Christ.” Thinking like Jesus
results in acting like Jesus. If you could take Jesus’ mind and place it
in your head, couldn’t you better get along with your parents? You
can do so if you pray for wisdom and bathe in Scripture.
Conclusion: Is there any changes you need to make? If I picked up the telephone
and asked your parents if you are totally right with them, what would they say?