Define the Relationship Biblically

I broke my arm during the summer before the third grade.  I had a small playset in my backyard that had a slide.  I played on it for years until I was just too big, and the swing set was just too old.  One day, after a summer rain, I decided that the wet slide would make an awesome surfboard.  I jumped on the top and attempted to slide down standing up.  Bad idea!  I wish I had a camera on me at the time, because it felt like I did a complete flip before I landed square on my back in the grass.  It hurt, but I wasn’t about to let the slide win.  I jumped on the slide again, and when I landed on my back the second time I broke my arm!  I was trying to do something that the slide wasn’t meant to do.

Your life is made up of relationships.  Your relationship with your family, with those around you at church, and with people you see every day make up your life.  Many problems that we face come from when we try to make a relationship into something it wasn’t meant to do. Just like I used the slide as a surfboard, we try to make our relationship with our parent’s into something else.  We get into fights at school or work when someone else doesn’t fit into our expectation of what they were supposed to be doing.

God has taken time in the Bible to define our relationships Biblically.  When two people have a clear idea of what role they are supposed to serve, they work together more effectively.  Just like a handbook determines what positions are allowed to do what on the football field, we can look at the Bible to determine what proper relationships look like.

  1. God defines our relationship with Him. Genesis 20:-5, 7-10 are some basic rules to what place God holds in our life. Thou shalt have no other gods before me. God should hold the number one, pre-eminent lead in our life. Thou shalt not make unto thee any graven image. God wants our attention, our worship, and our affection. Thou shalt not take the name of the Lord thy God in vain. God’s name is above all names, and we should do everything we can to honor it. Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy. God expects t-i-m-e. If you’d like to Define The Relationship Biblically (DTRB), then God should be number one in every aspect of your life.
  2. God defines our relationship with our parents. Genesis 20:12 Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee. This has a huge impact on your life. The way you treat your parents, and whether or not you honor them, will decide how far you get as a Christian.  To DTRB, you should value your parents and guardians.  How much value do you give to mom and dad?  Are they worth listening to? Are they worth obeying?  Are they worth inviting to church?  Your parents should hold the highest value in your list of earthly relationships. (Hint: God promises a reward to those who do.)
  3. God defines our relationship with everyone else. Yes! Everyone else can fit into what the Bible says in Genesis 20:13-17. To DTRB: we should not hate people or seek to put our hands on them v13. We should understand God defines Biblical marriage as one man and one woman for one lifetime v14. We should understand that people need to be treated with respect, and how we would want to be treated ourselves v15-17. If we can manage to treat others as ourselves, then almost every problem we have will be fixed or go away.

Do you define the relationships in your life Biblicaly? My advice: Start with God first, and work your way though the above list.

Jesse McCammon

Assistant Pastor

Lighthouse Baptist Church, Flint, Mi